Question: “I had a really great childhood, and I think I’ve made it to adulthood pretty successfully. I am happily married to a wonderful man and have extremely high hopes for our future. However, in the first months of my marriage, I was so frustrated during an argument with my husband that I scratched his face and left a mark. I haven’t done it again, but I don’t ever want a repeat. Can you help me uncover where this propensity for violence is coming from, before we bring children into this house?”
The reaction of going to violence during an verbal argument is the effect of reacting to the perpetrators emotional stimuli.